What do people really want in a relationship? What exactly do they search for and hope to find? What do we lack and seek in another human?
I was chatting with a guy on one of the social media platform some months back. We chatted for sometime because he seems friendly. He talked about how he went through my pictures and liked my post. Then one day, he asked a funny question which I didn’t quite figure out quickly where it was heading. He asked what my blood group was and I gave him a random answer, he said “oh”. I asked him the reason behind his question knowing fully well the question was quite intimate. He said he was looking for an AA lady because he is AS. I was perplexed because I didn’t know it has gotten to the point people desperately search even on social media(don’t get me wrong, I am not being judgmental here). I wasn’t in his shoes but then I thought about it.
I have had a friend who says she loves guys who are intelligent,that is her turn on. So if you’re not high on the I.Q part, just waka pass.
I’ve also had a friend say she would love to marry an artist. Someone who would sketch her and put her picture out there for the world to view. You would also have seen people shoot their shot just because someone can sing so well or act so well.
What about in churches, where numerous sisters/brothers chase after a particular brother/sister just because of the anointing. You will hear things like ‘ the Lord said you’re my husband or my wife’. And they will find a way to get so close to the brother / sister at all cost. The list goes endless.
Would we say those were shallow reasons for love or lust? Was that even love in the first place? Everyone is looking for love where they can’t find it. The Love that wasn’t lost in the first place. If the so called person stop being what really attracted us to them will we stop loving them?
If what people are, who they are and how they behave validates them for love. When they stop being that or having that,would it not bring the love to an end. When you look at the people around you or the friends you have. Is there a reason you love them or a reason they love you that if they stop being that you would unfriend them?
We are in a society where we try to conform to what people want. We behave and act towards some certain people because that is what or who we know they love about us. We stop being ourselves because we perceive that this is the image or the person they love.
Why do parents not chase their kids out just because they behave a certain way or they can offer certain things? They know they have to live with you and bear with you. They know they can’t discard you and start looking for what’s not somewhere else. That is where we should learn love from.
A love that doesn’t want benefits, a love that thrives through thick and thin. A love that is unconditional. We can learn this from Christ.
I would like to know what exactly do people want in a relationship? Your comments are really important
I love you all as always
